Today morning I was listening to this song “Yeh dooriyan” from the movie “Love
Aaj Kal” which brought me back to the movie. I’d recently seen this movie…I
know, this movie released years back but I don’t know…I never got the time to
watch this movie. So, finally I watched the movie and in the beginning only I was
impressed with the reasons that Meera (Deepika Padukone) and Jai (Saif Ali
Khan) offered for not being in a long distance relationship. How long distance
relationship will somewhere choke them and after sometime would be like an
albatross around their neck.
All their reasons and this song reminded me of the girl in my class who met
her boyfriend on Facebook. I was in 11th grade when I met her at my
coaching institute. She was crazy about this song “Yeh dooriyan” and had driven
me crazy too. She would not study a single word during the classes and chat
with her boyfriend all the time during the class. For her coming to institute was
all about chatting with her boyfriend and nothing else because she didn’t want
her parents to catch her chatting.
One day out of curiosity I asked this girl about her boyfriend. I was
surprised and shocked when I heard that she was in a long distance relationship
with her boyfriend and she met him on Facebook but this not the end of it, to
top it all she told me that she’s never met him in person. I asked her how she can
be in love with him when she’d never met the guy. All she told me was that
meeting in person doesn’t matter. She just loved him.
Me: But, how could you fall for him?? You’ve never met him.
Her: I knew him as a child. He was my neighbor. Then, his father got
transferred to Bangalore and he left.
Me: when did he leave?
Her: I was in 4th grade.
Me: OMG!! Seriously, it’s been so long…were you guys good friends?
Her: No…we were just neighbors.
Me: You were just neighbors and you trust him…just like that.
Her: I didn’t in the beginning…but he was quite adamant, he eventually
convinced me of his love for me.
In that moment I knew she was a lost cause. I couldn’t do anything. I couldn’t
tell her that it won’t last even when I knew that it won’t. Few days later she
left the institute. Well, after about almost a year I met her again but in my
chemistry class. Again she would sit at the back and constantly text her
boyfriend or so I thought, although, I was wrong this time. They were not
together anymore. She was texting her new boyfriend who happened to be in her
school only this time. Then one day after class I got hold of her and
asked her about her FB boyfriend.
Me: How have you been?? How’s your relationship?? Did you meet him??
Her: I’m great!! Yeah…I met him but we’re not together anymore.
Me: why…what happened??
Her: Reality happened!! Let’s just say we were only compatible in virtual
world but, in real world it didn’t work out!!
Me: Awwww…I’m so sorry!!
Her: Don’t be…I found someone better and he’s in my school. He’s an awesome
guy!!
Me: Then I’m happy for you!!
So today I’m going to write a letter to all those guys/girls who claim to
find love on Facebook and get into long distance relationship too over FB only.
Dear FB Lover,
So, you met her on Facebook. You sent her friend request because she looked
pretty in her profile picture. You talked to her as a friend. Now, every time
she comes online you chat with her. She thinks that you’re her friend but, you
have other ideas. One day just out of blue you propose to her. You tell her on
Facebook that you’ve fallen for her. You ask her to get in a long distance
relationship with you. Now, please tell me what answer are you expecting from
the poor girl? She barely knows you, therefore she can’t just say yes!! She can’t
even refuse you directly because she doesn’t want to hurt you. You’ve just
caught her off guard. You think that she being difficult and she’s arrogant if
she refuses you.
But, now I ask you…did you really fell for the girl? You’ve just chatted
with her a few times. You have not met her in person. You hardly know her. You don’t
even know what her favorite color is. You claim to love her but you don’t know what
she dreams to be in her life. You don’t even know if she wears spectacles or
what is the color of her eyes!!
You think that she’s the right girl for you but, actually she’s not. Even
if you’re in love, it’s not the girl but the delusional image that you’ve created
of her that attracts you!! So, in the end I would just ask you to stop and
think before you put someone in such an awkward situation.
Love is a beautiful emotion and I guess the feeling is wonderful but, don’t
waste it on someone who is not worth it or for that matter is not the person
that you think he/she is, just because a social networking site presented them
that way. Don’t let the glitter of these social networking sites sweep you off
your feet and make you believe in something that is not really there because at
last when this virtual fantasy will become your reality, all you’ll feel is
cheated if your prince charming turns out to be actually a Frog Prince!!
Yours Faithfully,
MissCrazymind <3
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