LoVe@FaCeBoOk

Today morning I was listening to this song “Yeh dooriyan” from the movie “Love Aaj Kal” which brought me back to the movie. I’d recently seen this movie…I know, this movie released years back but I don’t know…I never got the time to watch this movie. So, finally I watched the movie and in the beginning only I was impressed with the reasons that Meera (Deepika Padukone) and Jai (Saif Ali Khan) offered for not being in a long distance relationship. How long distance relationship will somewhere choke them and after sometime would be like an albatross around their neck.

All their reasons and this song reminded me of the girl in my class who met her boyfriend on Facebook. I was in 11^th grade when I met her at my coaching institute. She was crazy about this song “Yeh dooriyan” and had driven me crazy too. She would not study a single word during the classes and chat with her boyfriend all the time during the class. For her coming to institute was all about chatting with her boyfriend and nothing else because she didn’t want her parents to catch her chatting.

One day out of curiosity I asked this girl about her boyfriend. I was surprised and shocked when I heard that she was in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend and she met him on Facebook but this not the end of it, to top it all she told me that she’s never met him in person. I asked her how she can be in love with him when she’d never met the guy. All she told me was that meeting in person doesn’t matter. She just loved him.

Me: But, how could you fall for him?? You’ve never met him.

Her: I knew him as a child. He was my neighbor. Then, his father got transferred to Bangalore and he left.

Me: when did he leave?

Her: I was in 4^th grade.

Me: OMG!! Seriously, it’s been so long…were you guys good friends?

Her: No…we were just neighbors.

Me: You were just neighbors and you trust him…just like that.

Her: I didn’t in the beginning…but he was quite adamant, he eventually convinced me of his love for me.

In that moment I knew she was a lost cause. I couldn’t do anything. I couldn’t tell her that it won’t last even when I knew that it won’t. Few days later she left the institute. Well, after about almost a year I met her again but in my chemistry class. Again she would sit at the back and constantly text her boyfriend or so I thought, although, I was wrong this time. They were not together anymore. She was texting her new boyfriend who happened to be in her school only this time. Then one day after class I got hold of her and asked her about her FB boyfriend.

Me: How have you been?? How’s your relationship?? Did you meet him??

Her: I’m great!! Yeah…I met him but we’re not together anymore.

Me: why…what happened??

Her: Reality happened!! Let’s just say we were only compatible in virtual world but, in real world it didn’t work out!!

Me: Awwww…I’m so sorry!!

Her: Don’t be…I found someone better and he’s in my school. He’s an awesome guy!!

Me: Then I’m happy for you!!

So today I’m going to write a letter to all those guys/girls who claim to find love on Facebook and get into long distance relationship too over FB only.

Dear FB Lover, 

So, you met her on Facebook. You sent her friend request because she looked pretty in her profile picture. You talked to her as a friend. Now, every time she comes online you chat with her. She thinks that you’re her friend but, you have other ideas. One day just out of blue you propose to her. You tell her on Facebook that you’ve fallen for her. You ask her to get in a long distance relationship with you. Now, please tell me what answer are you expecting from the poor girl? She barely knows you, therefore she can’t just say yes!! She can’t even refuse you directly because she doesn’t want to hurt you. You’ve just caught her off guard. You think that she being difficult and she’s arrogant if she refuses you.

But, now I ask you…did you really fell for the girl? You’ve just chatted with her a few times. You have not met her in person. You hardly know her. You don’t even know what her favorite color is. You claim to love her but you don’t know what she dreams to be in her life. You don’t even know if she wears spectacles or what is the color of her eyes!!

You think that she’s the right girl for you but, actually she’s not. Even if you’re in love, it’s not the girl but the delusional image that you’ve created of her that attracts you!! So, in the end I would just ask you to stop and think before you put someone in such an awkward situation.

Love is a beautiful emotion and I guess the feeling is wonderful but, don’t waste it on someone who is not worth it or for that matter is not the person that you think he/she is, just because a social networking site presented them that way. Don’t let the glitter of these social networking sites sweep you off your feet and make you believe in something that is not really there because at last when this virtual fantasy will become your reality, all you’ll feel is cheated if your prince charming turns out to be actually a Frog Prince!!

Yours Faithfully,

MissCrazymind <3

#BRINGBACKOURGIRLS

I’ve just given my 12^th CBSE Board Exams and now I’m preparing for my medical college entrances. Well, school is over and I’m missing the discussions that my friends and me would have about the recent happenings like the elections in India, or for that matter the abduction of Nigerian girls by Boko Haram.

Every day I read newspaper in the morning and wish before I reach the “world news” section that today may be the day when I read that finally those Nigerian girls are rescued, that finally they are home. But, every day my wishes and prays are going in vain. As the days are passing by, well…I’m getting very agitated and angry. The newspaper every day informs me about the countries that have joined in to help Nigerian government to rescue the girls. But all I’m doing is just reading. I feel so helpless.

 The first time I read this news I was shocked and the first thing that I said was “thank god I don’t live in a place where going to school can get you abducted!!” But, I kept on following the news out of curiosity and somewhere I’d thought that in a matter of a day or two the Nigerian government will rescue the girls and punish the abductors. Alas, I was wrong!! It’s been weeks and the girls are not rescued. Few days back I read that few of girls are sick and some died due to snake bite. They’re also being converted to Islam and some are forcefully married!!

All my life I’ve lived in a protective bubble created by my family. They’ve been with me and if I’m taken away from them or if they’re taken away from me, well…I know that the pain felt would be immeasurable!! And this makes me wonder how much pain and suffering these parents and girls would be going through being separated from each other. Those parents must be devastated!!

Boko Haram had offered to release the girls in exchange for his prisoners. In the beginning the video released by him said that the group intended to sell the girls in market!! “I abducted your girls. I will sell them in the market, by Allah,” and “Allah has instructed me to sell them. They are his property and I will carry out his instructions.” He said these horrible things. In the name of Allah he’s trying to justify his evil act. 

As Malala said in a recent interview “They should go and they should learn Islam, and I think that they should think these girls as their own sisters. How can one imprison their own sisters and treat them in such a bad way?” I totally agree with her. I’ve not studied Islam but I know this much that no god or religion teaches anyone to treat a fellow human being and little girls in such heartless way regardless of their caste, creed, colour, religion and gender.

According to Boko Haram “Western Education is sinful” but then I ask isn’t selling teenage girls in market sinful too?? And, if he really thinks that abducting little girls and selling them isn’t sinful then I must say that his moral meter is faulty and he should really get it repaired. Also, he should go and learn Islam and think twice before doing such outrageous things in the name of Allah when his real selfish motive is to just get his prisoners out!! Allah would never want such cruel thing to happen.

In the end all I can say is…#BRINGBACKOURGIRLS and please be fast!!